blouse - a.n.a/JCP
blazer - Worthington/JCP
skirt - Old Navy
shoes - Worthington/JCP
So sometime last week or the week prior I read a blog post by someone who I always thought had a similar body shape and style as myself. The writer mentions making some diet, etc. changes in their life as a result from a look in the mirror where they were horrified at what they saw.
First, I think it's great to make changes to your diet in order to better your health. I think it's great to find enjoyable ways to add movement into your life in order to better your health. (I just don't think it's necessary to mention that you are doing any of these things because you are horrified by your reflection.) I think it's really great to do all kinds of things to better your mental health, and truthfully, I think this last aspect of health is incredibly important (perhaps the most important) and unfortunately, largely ignored/neglected, often as a result of focusing so heavily on the first two aspects.
Now I know it isn't all about me, but after reading this post, I was thrown into a tailspin of negative thoughts, body-hate, and self-doubt. Every time I looked into my mirror, I didn't like what I saw. My face, my body, my hair, everything.
I needed to do something to reverse this attitude. And fast. I unfollowed the blog. I got a haircut. I bought some new makeup and starting doing more on my eyes and contouring. I had great sex. I didn't focus on negative thoughts. I looked in the mirror and looked for the positives. I dressed fashionably. I dressed comfortably. I let go of my insecurities and was my fabulous, confident self.
My point is three-fold.
1. The negative shit you say about yourself is affecting others negatively too. You can say you don't care, but then you are kind of an asshole. I generally want people around me to feel good about themselves. You don't?
2. Take note of the shit in your life that is dragging you down and interfering with your personal growth and get rid of it. Full stop.
3. Do what it takes (within reason) to feel good about yourself. If that means you drop $95 at MAC (cough, cough), then do it. Like L'Oreal Paris says, "you're worth it". No, seriously, you are. And if you don't believe it, there's a good bet no one will.
